Coping with bone metastasis involves more than coping with bone pain. It also involves coming to terms with the news that your cancer has spread.
Treatments for bone metastasis can slow the growth of the cancer and may extend your life. But cancer that spreads can be hard to cure. Your healthcare team will work to ease your pain and keep you comfortable so that you can focus on what's important to you.
People find their own ways to cope with a cancer diagnosis. Until you find what works best for you, here are some things you can try.
Find out enough about bone metastasis to help you decide about your care
Ask your healthcare team about the details of your cancer and your treatment choices. Ask about where you can get more information. Good places to start are the U.S. National Cancer Institute and the American Cancer Society.
Find someone to talk with
A close friend or family member who is a good listener might be a good person to talk with about your fears or worries. Sometimes friends and family members may have trouble coping with your diagnosis, so you might choose to talk with a professional. Talking with a counselor, medical social worker, or a pastoral or religious counselor can be helpful. These experts are trained to help guide you during this challenging time.
Connect with other cancer survivors
You may find comfort in talking with other people who have cancer. Contact your local chapter of the American Cancer Society to find cancer support groups in your area. You may find it helpful to hear how other people and their families cope with cancer.
Work toward accepting your diagnosis
It can be hard to accept that your cancer may not have a cure. For some people, having a strong faith or a sense of something greater than themselves makes this process easier.
Others want to talk with someone who knows about life-threatening illnesses. This could be a medical social worker, a psychologist or a chaplain.
Make end-of-life choices
Some people find comfort in planning ahead for difficult times. This can include organizing legal or financial details so your family is not burdened with these decisions. You also may choose to review your end-of-life care wishes with your healthcare professional. Write down your wishes and share them with your friends and family.
Think about hospice care
If cancer therapies no longer work, or if you no longer want them, you might find comfort in hospice care. Hospice care provides medical, emotional and spiritual support. Hospice care focuses on keeping you comfortable and easing your physical and emotional pain.
Hospice programs are usually for people who are expected to live about six months. Some hospices are buildings where you stay. Others have special beds within a hospital, and some offer care at home. Hospice staff work together with your cancer care team to make sure your needs are met. Choosing hospice doesn't mean giving up — it's another way to help manage difficult health issues.